Dominance

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If you want to succeed in life you must be dominant. In order to work, dominance must be authentic, consistent and congruent in all areas of your life. You can’t be a pussy in the gym and expect to go out and dominate women or your business.

What I mean is this: look at the guys who are the losers, the 95%. Their lives are at the mercy of others, the weather, the market or the alignment of the stars. You name it and they have an excuse. They work jobs that they hate, living with women who don’t respect them and look forward to pissing away their whole weekend on video games and weed.
If they have a relationship with a woman, and I use this term lightly, they are dominated by her. They are dominated by her moods, her whims, her wants and “needs”. These are the guys who are married for 10 years and maybe get laid once per year on their birthday, maybe. These are the “male feminists” who march in the womens’ march flashing their SJW street creds.
Conversely, the dominant man is the one who has control over his life. He controls how he feels, thinks, what he puts into his body. He is dominant, yet respectful. He exerts total dominance over women. If they don’t like it, they are free to walk, yet they rarely do.
His woman adores him. He gets laid often, and many times it is her who initiates the sex. He dominates in the bedroom.
This is a noble pursuit and it begins with your daily life, habits and thoughts. You cannot be dominant in one area of your life and submissive in another. You must have consistency, integrity and have your thoughts and actions line up with each other. I cannot stress this enough. If you aren’t at that point then this will need to become your first priority. Begin by setting a schedule for yourself and living by it. Get your house in order first. Be authentic, because one of the greatest factors in being dominant is a true ZFG attitude.
Here are some ways to be dominant starting today:

Thoughts: This is the first step. Begin by consciously thinking dominant thoughts. You must get rid of insecurities first. If you don’t, you will become domineering rather than dominant. There is a huge difference. A domineering personality comes from insecurity. True dominance doesn’t require disrespect. Actually, the foundation of dominance has to do with self respect which in turn reflects itself in a healthy respect for others. Work on thinking thoughts worthy of self respect. Think positive, strong, masculine thoughts. It takes a consistent, focused effort to think in this way but it is essential to get this down. This is another reason why it is necessary to cut out the tv, video games and other distractions. These things put your mind in a passive mode. You want your mind to be in active mode, actively pursuing thoughts that you want it to and creating the life that you want to live. Live a deliberate life.

 

Boundries: If you choose to become a dominant force in your own life then people will test you. Women will test you. Expect it. Thrive on it. If you are truly dominant these tests will mean nothing to you. You’ll pass them and people will just respect you more. Some boundries that you may need to work on are as follows: your time, how people treat you, how you expect to be treated, your views of the world, religion, politics and your overall outlook on life. Begin by setting out a schedule for yourself and follow through to a “T”. No compromises. Get use to saying “no”.

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Style: Your style of dress needs to be dominant. Start dressing like a man: sharp, masculine and exuding strength form inside.
Business: Rise to the top. Be bold. Be outrageous. Be the man. Take charge of your work. Dominate your sphere. I will give you a word of warning in regards to business: weigh dominance carefully if you work for someone else. Dominance can get you to the top of the heap but it can also get you fired. So, you make the decision as to how you are going to utilize it. Now, if you are running your own game in business then you have no choice but to be dominant. The success or failure of your life depends on you: take charge of it!
Dating and Relationships: Take the reigns. You are the man therefore you are in charge of the relationship. I want to write a word on chivalry. The chivalric code was developed for warriors in order to give a guideline on how to act in the company of the fairer sex. Even on the right, chivalry gets a bad rap. Many well meaning guys believe that being a “white knight”, and pedastilizing women is chivalry. Conversely, many guys think that they should only treat “ladies” with respect nowadays. Both are wrong and have nothing to do with chivalry. Chivalry is about dominance in the public sphere, this is why man-hating feminists hate it. This is also why a feminine woman will love it. Try this: next time you are walking into a store and you see that woman, smile and open the door for her. She will seethe with contempt and spit venom at you. Why? Because you are showing male dominance.

Remember, being “nice” is weak, but a strong man willing to be kind is like catnip to women. Dominate her in all aspects of life including the bedroom. She will love you for it.
Health and fitness: You must dominate in the weight room. Think about it; you’ll be lifting weight that could kill you. If you don’t dominate it and take positive control of the weights, they will literally crush you. A dominant mindset will help you lift more as well. Think of yourself as the strong man that you want to be. Get yourself into a dominant frame of mind, even thinking of yourself as much bigger and stronger than you are. You’ll see the difference in the weight that you push and soon, with a lot of hard work, you will be that bigger and stronger man. I want to write a few words about martial arts and weight training as well. These two disciplines will not “give” you a dominant mindset. Nothing is given to you or me. What they do is set up the conditions for a man to learn how to think properly to overcome his boundaries and weaknesses. For a man, these two disciplines are essential for all aspects of life.

Until next time.

 

How to Schedule Your Day for Maximum Effectiveness

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Your time is the most valuable asset that you have, and the present is the only thing that you have to work with as the past is gone and the future is not yet here. Successful men always control their narrative and how they spend their time is no exception. In his masterpiece, “Sun and Steel”, Yukio Mishima lays out the duality between the day and the night. According to him the day is for action while the night is for contemplation. I have found this to be true in my own experience and also in researching the lives of my ancestors. In times past, men often retreated to contemplation and discussion after a hearty dinner and hard day of work. The evening was the time when men pondered the mysteries of life, dreamed and discussed great things. These thoughts turn into action.
Boiled down to its essence, focus on action during the day, contemplation and leisure in the evening. Now, this isn’t a hard and fast rule. You will take vacations and you may do leisure activities during the day in conjunction with business. What we are really focusing on is the majority of your work days.
Before you can sit down and plan your day, you need to have a solid idea of what you want out of life. What is your passion or your Thumos? You must know yourself, your passion and your purpose in order to effectively plan anything. If you don’t yet know these things, take the time to really find out. It will be one of the best investments that you ever make.
Once you know your purpose in life and your subsequent goals you’ll be able to realistically break down your months, weeks and days. This will allow you to focus your time and energy on the most important things and filter out the rest. The first step to success will be to plan out your week on Sunday and plan out each day’s daily tasks the evening before. In my experience, writing out your goals for the week and then scheduling your day hour by hour is the most effective plan. Your schedule needs to be realistic and attainable. Once you have set it you must stick to it like glue. As usual, people will criticize you for this. You’ll hear things like, “Its not good to be so rigid, you need to kick back too!”. This comes from dudes who get to the gym once and then decide to “take it easy tonight”. Their opinions don’t matter. Don’t pay any attention. Once you start to plan your schedule and do it, you’ll realize how much time you’ve wasted with crap, but you will also gain invaluable perspective on how you want to spend your time. Not only will scheduling increase your productivity but it will also increase your quality of life because you will only give time to people and pursuits that fit into your game plan. The idea of wasting time will begin to disgust you if it already hasn’t.
Here are some fundamental ways that you can start. I personally do all of these things daily:
1) Get up early, 5 am is ideal. Getting up early will make you feel good. You’ll accomplish so much constructive work by the time most people are hitting snooze on their alarm clocks. If you are not a “morning person” that works even better; you’ll feel great by pushing yourself to get up early. “Sleeping in” on the weekends should not exceed 6 am.
2) Practice awareness training. I do this in the morning before anything else as well as at varying times during the day. I find that it helps me to clear my mind of unnecessary garbage and to keep my focus on my goals. You should have your life goals written down. Make sure to look them over in the morning and throughout the day. Make sure that you plan how you will take action towards each goal today.
3) Your work. Focus on the task at hand, forget trying to multi-task. Dive into your work, your creation, your art. Give it 1000% . If you are still working for someone else then treat this as a learning experience. Keep you your goals in front of you always and move towards them. If you approach the “daily grind” as a business school you will be making good use of your time. Use your lunch time to further your goals by writing for your blog, reading to improve yourself, get to the gym, go for a walk and practice your day game, etc.. Don’t waste it hanging out with the guys from the office eating shit food and wasting time talking about last night’s game.
4) Warrior training. This includes hitting the gym. Don’t forget the other aspects of your training either: martial arts, shooting both rifle and pistol as well as other weapons.

5)Masculine pursuits.  Once your work day is over and you have workout out and done your warrior training then it is time to shift the focus of your day to the contemplative. This is the point in the day where you will read, study, learn. You can also take part in other forms of masculine leisure such as playing chess, reading or writing. Keep the tv turned off and sell your gaming console. Trust me, when you are lying on your deathbed you won’t be wishing that you had played “Call of Duty” one last time.

6) Meals. These obviously come at different times during the day. The main thing is to eat healthy and prepare your food ahead of time.  There are so many fitness articles online that stress the importance of meal prep. My experience has taught me that this is one of the few universal truths of the fitness industry. Make the time to do it. Take the time to eat, don’t rush it. If possible, eat with someone else and converse. Put the phone away and keep the tv off. If you have a family make sure to eat dinner together at the table each and ever night. Have your wife cook for you and prepare the table. Offer her encouragement to do so. Get to know local restaurants where you can find good, healthy food. When you are going out to eat for business or pleasure make the choice of one of these restaurants.

7) Plan for the next day’s success. Before bed time give yourself ample time to review your goals and what you did to accomplish them today, then write down your plan for the next day.

8) Go to bed, wake up the next day and repeat.

 

 

Know your purpose. This narrows things down. Have goals. Focus only on the important things. Practice mindfulness, awareness.

These are the keys to succesfully planning your day.

Until next time.

 

Why Should I be a Minimalist?

One of my business mentors is a former boss of mine, who incidentally helps me out by working for me 3 days per week now. I remember his office, it was clean and basic yet tastefully decorated in a very manly way. One year he held a Christmas party at his house and I noticed that his home was the same way; very basic, clean lines, well kept and very masculine. You will notice a pattern forming here. There is an old saying, “A sound mind in a sound body”, I would also add a new saying, ” a sound mind in a sound environment.”. The bottom line is that successful men are not slobs. Take the movies as one example:  the powerful sit in offices that are well taken care of free of clutter and unnecessary junk.

There are two main reasons for this. The first reason is that the rich and successful live below their means. Read that again; the rich and successful live below their means. This means that a successful man will be a minimalist because he does not purchase unnecessary junk. He purchases only those things that contribute to his greater good. When he does purchase something, he purchases something of value. He purchases things that will assist him in his quest to be a better man. He does not buy useless toys for the sake of buying or having.  This also means that he will value his time greatly. He will not clutter his time with unnecessary junk either. Everything he does will have a purpose, even his leisure time.

The second reason is an offspring of the first. In order to have a clear mind, free of mental clutter, our external environment must also be free of clutter. Having outward clutter in homes, offices, vehicles and in dress are both the cause and effect of a struggling mind. It is a cause because it is very difficult to unclutter useless thoughts and emotions from our own mind while being in a space that is clutered and dirty. Clutter in our spaces and in our dress is also an outward sign of our inner disposition. This is one reason why it is so important to dress well. It is either a vicious cycle of depression or it can be an upward cycle of clarity and inner peace. That is our call to make. This is one of the reasons that the military is so focused on uniform appearance, cleanliness and discipline.

We are not isolated creatures. Our surroundings affect our mindset and our mindset will affect our surroundings. The main thing that we need to do is to take control of the situation around us, one of the by products of practicing assertive masculinity. When people enter our space, be it our office, home, vehicle or all of the above, they are coming into our world, a small kingdom so to speak. A man must own those things that are his.  If you have peace in your surroundings it will help you to have peace in your soul. If you have peace in your soul it will affect your surroundings. One of the best exercises to do is to remove clutter, donate the stuff that you don’t use anymore, then start to surround yourself with books. Of course you will need to read them too, but the act of having neatly arranged books surrounding you will affect your mindset tremendously. If you have a room that is a study or a home office this is even better. After dinner, retire to the den for a while and pick a book off the shelf and read. Expand your comfort zone by also purchasing books that are not directly in your realm of interests. If you love history, buy a book on basic physics, if you are a science guy pick up a book about philosophy. By doing this daily you will acquire vast amounts of knowledge in a very short period of time! Just as we can see in the mirror the physical aspects of ourselves that we would like to change, we ust be honest with ourselves as far as the intellectual weaknesses that we need to overcome. Only by knowing what we need to change can we attack that aspect and improve ourselves.

Being a minimalist is necessary to focus in on our goals, and finding our purpose in life. Once we have established these things, being a minimalist will help us to focus only on those things that are necessary to achieve these things. We will recognize the clutter trying to intrude on our lives for exactly that they are; a waste of time.

 

Motivation

Keys to Success

“Your success depends on you.

Your happiness depends on you.

You have to steer your own course.

You have to shape your own fortune.

You have to educate yourself.

You have to do your own thinking.

You have to live with your own conscience.

Your mind is yours and can be used only by you.

You come into this world alone.

You go to the grave alone.

You are alone with your inner thoughts during the journey between.

You make your own decisions.

You must abide by the consequences of your acts…

You alone can regulate your habits and make or unmake your health.

You alone can assimilate things mental and things material….

You have to do your own assimilation all through life.

You can be taught by a teacher, but you have to imbibe the knowledge. He cannot transfuse it into your brain.

You alone can control your mind cells and your brain cells.

You may have spread before you the wisdom of the ages, but unless you assimilate it you derive no benefit from it; no one can force it into your cranium.

You alone can move your own legs.

You alone can move your own arms.

You alone can utilize your own hands.

You alone can utilize your own muscles.

You must stand on your feet, physically and metaphorically.

You must take your own steps.

Your parents cannot enter your skin, take control of your mental and physical machinery, and make something of you.

You cannot fight your son’s battles; that he must do for himself.

You have to be captain of your own destiny.

You have to see through your own eyes.

You have to use your own ears.

You have to use your own faculties.

You have to solve your own problems.

You have to form your own ideals.

You have to form your own ideas.

You must choose your own speech.

You must govern your own tongue.

Your real life is your thoughts.

Your thought are your own making.

Your character is your handiwork.

You alone can select the materials that go into it.

You alone can reject what is not fit to go into it.

You are the creator of your own personality.

You can be disgraced by no man’s hand but your own.

You can be elevated and sustained by no man but yourself.

You have to write your own record.

You have to build your own monument-or dig your own pit.

Which are you doing?”

B.C. Forbes 1917

Proactivity

Picture yourself on December 31st, it is about 8pm. The new year is just around the corner. There were several beautiful ladies who waited on your decision about taking them to a new year’s party. You chose to go alone instead. You are getting dressed, standing in front of the mirror looking good in your custom tailored suit. As you stand there adjusting the cuff links on your shirt you ponder the past year. You feel great, you feel confident, you feel at peace, you feel like you accomplished much. You set out to achieve your goals and you are reaping the rewards. You succeeded and you failed. You had times of joy and times of sorrow. You got through it all. Then there were the “friends” who put down your dreams and told you how your plans would fail.  Those who put down your dreams are at home drinking beer, eating chips and watching the ball drop in Times Square on the television. You have transcended that, you are living your dreams. It is time to feel good about what you have done. You realize that you actually are becoming the man that you have always wanted to be. You are living your life on purpose.

You are tempted for a moment to just ride the wave and enjoy it. You realize that is the old you talking. You remember that one of the greatest lessons that you have learned is that you must always be moving forward. You are either growing or you are dying. Rather than just taking your successes for what they are, you start to jot down down ways that you can improve on them. You can’t wait for New Year’s Day to come so that you can write out your plans and goals for the new year.

You know that you must always be proactive. You have learned that life is like chess, you must always be thinking several moves ahead. You know yourself, you know that you can easily go back to your old ways and just take the path of least resistance. “No”, you tell yourself, “it doesn’t work like that anymore”. You have broken out of those old patterns of thinking and being reactive.

You decide on ways to be proactive in fitness, and your business ventures. Suddenly you realize a way that you can turn your side business into something even more profitable, allowing you to explore even more entrepreneurial ventures. You find ways to be proactive in dating and your social life. What used to frighten you is now second nature. Now, women actually come to you. You are proactive in your ways of thinking, you think deliberately, useless thoughts have no place in your head.

Now the thought of just sitting back and being reactive is repulsing to you. You put on your suit jacket, make a couple of adjustments, and look in the mirror. You like what you see. It is now time to move forward again.

 

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