Dominance

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If you want to succeed in life you must be dominant. In order to work, dominance must be authentic, consistent and congruent in all areas of your life. You can’t be a pussy in the gym and expect to go out and dominate women or your business.

What I mean is this: look at the guys who are the losers, the 95%. Their lives are at the mercy of others, the weather, the market or the alignment of the stars. You name it and they have an excuse. They work jobs that they hate, living with women who don’t respect them and look forward to pissing away their whole weekend on video games and weed.
If they have a relationship with a woman, and I use this term lightly, they are dominated by her. They are dominated by her moods, her whims, her wants and “needs”. These are the guys who are married for 10 years and maybe get laid once per year on their birthday, maybe. These are the “male feminists” who march in the womens’ march flashing their SJW street creds.
Conversely, the dominant man is the one who has control over his life. He controls how he feels, thinks, what he puts into his body. He is dominant, yet respectful. He exerts total dominance over women. If they don’t like it, they are free to walk, yet they rarely do.
His woman adores him. He gets laid often, and many times it is her who initiates the sex. He dominates in the bedroom.
This is a noble pursuit and it begins with your daily life, habits and thoughts. You cannot be dominant in one area of your life and submissive in another. You must have consistency, integrity and have your thoughts and actions line up with each other. I cannot stress this enough. If you aren’t at that point then this will need to become your first priority. Begin by setting a schedule for yourself and living by it. Get your house in order first. Be authentic, because one of the greatest factors in being dominant is a true ZFG attitude.
Here are some ways to be dominant starting today:

Thoughts: This is the first step. Begin by consciously thinking dominant thoughts. You must get rid of insecurities first. If you don’t, you will become domineering rather than dominant. There is a huge difference. A domineering personality comes from insecurity. True dominance doesn’t require disrespect. Actually, the foundation of dominance has to do with self respect which in turn reflects itself in a healthy respect for others. Work on thinking thoughts worthy of self respect. Think positive, strong, masculine thoughts. It takes a consistent, focused effort to think in this way but it is essential to get this down. This is another reason why it is necessary to cut out the tv, video games and other distractions. These things put your mind in a passive mode. You want your mind to be in active mode, actively pursuing thoughts that you want it to and creating the life that you want to live. Live a deliberate life.

 

Boundries: If you choose to become a dominant force in your own life then people will test you. Women will test you. Expect it. Thrive on it. If you are truly dominant these tests will mean nothing to you. You’ll pass them and people will just respect you more. Some boundries that you may need to work on are as follows: your time, how people treat you, how you expect to be treated, your views of the world, religion, politics and your overall outlook on life. Begin by setting out a schedule for yourself and follow through to a “T”. No compromises. Get use to saying “no”.

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Style: Your style of dress needs to be dominant. Start dressing like a man: sharp, masculine and exuding strength form inside.
Business: Rise to the top. Be bold. Be outrageous. Be the man. Take charge of your work. Dominate your sphere. I will give you a word of warning in regards to business: weigh dominance carefully if you work for someone else. Dominance can get you to the top of the heap but it can also get you fired. So, you make the decision as to how you are going to utilize it. Now, if you are running your own game in business then you have no choice but to be dominant. The success or failure of your life depends on you: take charge of it!
Dating and Relationships: Take the reigns. You are the man therefore you are in charge of the relationship. I want to write a word on chivalry. The chivalric code was developed for warriors in order to give a guideline on how to act in the company of the fairer sex. Even on the right, chivalry gets a bad rap. Many well meaning guys believe that being a “white knight”, and pedastilizing women is chivalry. Conversely, many guys think that they should only treat “ladies” with respect nowadays. Both are wrong and have nothing to do with chivalry. Chivalry is about dominance in the public sphere, this is why man-hating feminists hate it. This is also why a feminine woman will love it. Try this: next time you are walking into a store and you see that woman, smile and open the door for her. She will seethe with contempt and spit venom at you. Why? Because you are showing male dominance.

Remember, being “nice” is weak, but a strong man willing to be kind is like catnip to women. Dominate her in all aspects of life including the bedroom. She will love you for it.
Health and fitness: You must dominate in the weight room. Think about it; you’ll be lifting weight that could kill you. If you don’t dominate it and take positive control of the weights, they will literally crush you. A dominant mindset will help you lift more as well. Think of yourself as the strong man that you want to be. Get yourself into a dominant frame of mind, even thinking of yourself as much bigger and stronger than you are. You’ll see the difference in the weight that you push and soon, with a lot of hard work, you will be that bigger and stronger man. I want to write a few words about martial arts and weight training as well. These two disciplines will not “give” you a dominant mindset. Nothing is given to you or me. What they do is set up the conditions for a man to learn how to think properly to overcome his boundaries and weaknesses. For a man, these two disciplines are essential for all aspects of life.

Until next time.

 

The Holidays, Tradition and Masculinity

Having just passed through Thanksgiving weekend we are officially in the midst of the holiday season. Many men that I know have dropped out of the holiday madness being disgusted by the commercialism that surrounds modern western holidays. After all, why wouldn’t you want to drop out? The reality is that any religious meaning, anything deeper than Black Friday was stripped away from the holidays long ago.  What is Thanksgiving but a day to spend with family giving thanks for all of the good things that you have, expressing the manly virtue of gratitude. Yet today Thanksgiving means wasting time watching football, then stuffing yourself to the point of nausea in a gluttony fueled orgy of food. Maybe you’ll sleep on the couch after watching a superhero movie only to be aroused at 4am to get on line at the local mall for a “Black Friday” deal. Don’t forget to run into the bathroom a couple of times to jack off too. Truth be told, I’m depressed just writing about it.

But, dropping out is the way of the coward. This is because men are needed to bring back the traditions and the deeper meanings of life. There is a great line in Charles Sledge’s book, “Man Up”; “A healthy world is forged by healthy nations, healthy nations are forged by strong tribes, strong tribes are forged by strong families, strong families are forged by strong men.”
Gentlemen, we are the guardians of tradition. As we all know, women are emotionally driven and therefore will be blown like leaves in the wind. We men are the rock, the solid foundation of family life and the greater society as a whole. We are the bedrock of our families, churches, businesses, and society as a whole. Our traditions guide us, give us a constant light in all times of happiness or sadness. Tradition is important. Myth is important. Legend is important. Our ancestors knew this. People only two generations ago knew this. We urgently need to reconnect with this. Our nations, societies and families need us to reconnect with this.

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Identity is critical to a man. Identity is just as important to a family and society as it is to an individual. Look at it this way; tradition and myth are to a family what frame is to a man. They are the guiding force, the boundaries that everyone knows and respects. They are the customs of how we show respect to each other, to honor your ancestors and your God. The key with traditions is that they must be diligently kept and observed. They are perishable and fragile. They can disappear in a generation, and many have. The holidays are the perfect time to rediscover traditions.

There are two different types of tradition in relation to the holidays. The first type of traditions are the age old traditions of your culture. If you’ve grown up in the west disconnected from your heritage then now is the time to find it. All it takes is a few internet searches and you can easily find ways that your not so distant ancestors celebrated Christmas and the New Year. Expand this to other feasts throughout the year. You’ll find that your ancestors celebrated everything. They lived a cycle of life much different from us yet much healthier. If you are a Christian you will find this in the cycles of fasting and feasting laid out throughout the year.

The second type of tradition has to do with the details of your family life. These are the little things that you do with your family like trekking out in the snow somewhere to cut down a Christmas tree or a certain type of Christmas cookie that your wife makes perfectly for you. These types of tradition are extremely important as they give you and your family shared, happy experiences to enjoy together and forge your bonds with each other.

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It is important that you are the driving force behind this. Let your woman know what these traditions are and that they are to be kept diligently. She will take that from you and do everything in her power to produce your wishes for the respective holiday down to the last detail. You will enjoy watching her fuss over the smallest detail to please you and your wishes.
If you are not married yet then spend time with your family, observing your family traditions. Take care to learn them. Those who are passing the torch to you will not live forever. You need to take up that torch as a man and carry it forward, one day passing it on to your offspring. You will carry this tradition on with you when you get married. If you don’t get along with your family now, or you live away from them, use this time to research what you will want things to look like when you do have a family of your own.

Until next time.

Masculine Pursuits

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Recently I wrote a post about masculine sports. This post will be about some other masculine pursuits that could make up a man’s leisure time. For a man, there really isn’t something called “free time” and there is certainly no time spent in idleness. We all need time away, time for leisure, but what sets “leisure” aside is that it is always constructive. Leisure isn’t idle time wasted binge watching Netflix. Leisure is pursuing character building activities that also relax us. This allow us to recharge, an essential part of living that many of us have forgotten today. Wasting “free time” doing nothing leaves you feeling empty, regretful and depressed. Using your leisure time for character building will leave you feeling refreshed, constructive and accomplished. You’ll leave your vacation or your weekend feeling like more of a man, you’ll feel invigorated. While your normal routine of working out, martial arts and sports satisfy the visceral side of you some balance is important. Aim to be the impeccably dressed man with a black eye who is able to talk about Shostakovitch. Trust me, women go crazy for this type of man.

I want to explain one thing: I’m not against watching good movies that contribute to your masculine education. There are many foreign movies that are easily obtainable and have strong, masculine leads. My only advice would be to limit movie watching to 1 per week at the most. As for television it is mostly a waste of time. Again, you may find some series on line that are foreign and worth watching. Just remember that even good, character building movies and television shows must be watched in moderation.

That being said, here is a break down of some masculine pursuits for you leisure time:

 

 

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The Arts: You don’t have to be a pianist, painter or anything else. You do need to have an appreciation for the arts. You should be completely familiar with classical composers and their works as well as artists and their works. Explore the different periods and styles, learn what to listen to or look for. Find your favorite. Decorate your home and office with art. You can buy affordable prints of classical art online. Put them in a nice frame and know the story behind the scene in the painting, the artist and what he was trying to represent. You should be a regular at your local symphony and art museums. Finally, look for new artists who are doing things that you like and support them. Become a patron of the arts, help to bring about a resurgence of classical arts and music.

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Writing: This is a double pronged pursuit. You should be writing in a journal at least once per day. Maybe you discover along the way that you have a knack for writing and you have something to say. Maybe you want to write a novel, a biography or a philosophical treatise. Either way, keeping a journal is a fantastic way to see where your mind is, what you are thinking and what kinds of patterns are coming up in your life. Some days I’ll write pages and pages, other days its only a paragraph or two. The quality of my life has vastly improved through journal writing.

Chess: This is the king of all games. Chess is an amazing way to develop your mind, learn about people and keep your mind sharp. Chess is best played after dinner while having some cognac. Chess will teach you about people, thinking ahead, and adapting your strategy to evolving conditions. Play it against a real person, face to face.

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Travel/Exploring/Hiking: It is essential to get outside and experience the world at large. If traveling the world isn’t in your budget right now then travel your country, your state or your city. The key is to get out and experience life, expanding your horizons. Additionally, there are very few ways to clear your head like a good hike in nature. You should get out to nature often with no distractions. Camping is also a great pursuit and a practical skill as well. Challenge yourself to learn new skills each time you go camping so that you become more and more self reliant. If you are a father of boys then you have no option, you must teach them how to be outdoors men.

Spending time with others: We live in a technological, isolated society. People have hundreds of Facebook “friends” yet no real friends that they actually spend time with. Choose your friends carefully, trust very few. When you have established a small social circle of trusted male friends it becomes a great stress reducer to spend time with them. Your friends should be trustworthy. There is no such thing as a “frienemy”. If you can’t trust them, they shouldn’t be in your social circle. You cannot trust “friends” that you have made over social media. You cannot trust someone until you have looked into their eyes and spent time with them. The internet is full of frauds. Get out into the meat space.

That brings me to the next level: spending time with beautiful women. You should limit your time with women lest you become feminized. There is no such thing as “friends” of the opposite sex. Don’t waste your time. Your time is valuable, you have many things that you are doing, spending time with a beautiuful woman is a great masculine pursuit. Beautiful women are extremely feminine. Enjoy relaxing with her and observing how your masculinity and her femininity feed off of each other. In general, don’t waste your time with American women unless you find one who has rejected modern American way of life. Increase your odds dramatically by finding foreign women, preferably from your ancestral background.

Philosophy/Theology: Knowing at least the basics of philosophical ideas is absolutely necessary. Reading and learning philsophy makes you a better conversationalist, teaches critical thinking skills, broadens your horizons and helps you to see how others think. Begin with the great philosophers as well as the major political philosophies. Likewise, learn about the theology of your own religion as well as having a general knowledge of other major theologies as well.

Every thing that we do must contribute to our masculinity. In addition to masculine sport, these masculine pursuits will lead to a full, balanced, masculine life.

Until next time.

 

 

The Well Dressed Leader

If you look at any number of websites or books centered around being an alpha male, you will, without a doubt, come across the topic of dressing well. First off, be very careful where you go for men’s style advice, a lot of the famous PUA’s dress like clowns. I’m not a fan of “peacocking”. It’s much better to be a well dressed badass. Think James Bond.
This is an important topic for several reasons. The first is that dressing well reflects your inner disposition. What do you think of when you picture a guy with ill-fitting clothes, shirt untucked, not groomed? Yeah, you think he’s a slob and that is what he thinks of himself inside. If he didn’t feel this way about himself he would never dress like this, even when no one is looking.
What do you think of a guy who wears a suit that “kind of” fits him, finished off with a Disney tie? Beta shlub? Yeah, once again you are right. You’re probably looking at a dude whose wife disdains him. That’s the dude who gets laid once per year and the rest of the time anesthetized by a steady stream of junk food, porn, video games and watching sports.
Finally, there is the man who you see with a suit that fits him well, he’s wearing a power tie and french cuffs. You got it, that’s the alpha male. Don’t mistake this for a man obsessed with his looks, he’s not a metro sexual by any means, rather this is a man who knows how to look good and has a solid sense of self that reflects in how he dresses.

I can’t overstate the importance of dressing well and taking care of yourself for a healthy inner disposition. When I was in the service and going through a survival course, the importance of retaining normalcy in a survival situation was always stressed. Even in dire straits, you maintain military bearing, shave, wash, take care of yourself when possible. This is how important you outward appearance is to you. A lot of otherwise masculine men will downplay the importance of dressing well, seeing it as being metro sexual. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Being vain, feminine and metro sexual means dressing for others. Being a masculine man who dresses well, a well dressed badass, means that you dress this way for yourself. The secondary benefits will be how others will treat you, including women.

What should you do if your internal dialogue/image is not where it needs to be? What you can do is turn the dynamic around and use your external appearance to help you think better.

Here are some things that you can do immediately to improve the way you dress:

  1. Purchase a custom tailored shirt, jacket or suit. Wearing a well-tailored suit sets you apart immediately from those around you. Most guys in America today rarely wear a suit. When they do put one on they are visibly uncomfortable in it. You will stand out like a light house in your customer tailored suit and shirt combo. You can purchase either or both here for a great price.
  2. That being said, you’ll be looking fantastic in your newly tailored suit, so you’ll need to wear it. Get into the habit of wearing your suit. Going out for a couple of drinks? Put it on. Go out for a nice dinner? Put it on. Going downtown to do some shopping? Put it on. Get used to being in a suit. I guarantee that you’ll also notice the difference in how people treat you. You’ll like it.
  3. Always wear french cuffs with a jacket. Get several shirts made with french cuffs. Cuff links are not expensive. You can get yourself several pairs to change things up. This is where your individuality comes in. Find masculine cuff links that you like. This will allow you to have several sets to change things up.
  4. Purchase several ties. Go with power ties and power colors. You are a man, dress like it. Do NOT, I repeat Do NOT wear ties with Disney characters, superheros, sports team logos or anything like that. If you dress like a clown you will deservedly be treated like a clown. Consider yourself warned. If you live in Great Britain or any of the Commonwealth and have earned the honor to wear a regimental tie, do it; I’m jealous of you.
  5. Wear a pocket square every single time that  you wear a jacket.
  6. Wear a nice, masculine watch. You can find a good variety of reasonably priced watches on Amazon.
  7. Start to experiment. Find your particular style. Look to Europe, particularly England, for masculine ways to dress well. While there are some good blogs around for men that are coming out of America, I still recommend looking overseas. The reason is that masculine style is about more than just the surface, it’s about tradition, it’s about strength. America doesn’t have the tradition of a masculine aristocracy, so you’ll have to look elsewhere.
  8. Don’t ever walk into a church service wearing anything but a suit.
  9. Do not wear a tie without a jacket.

With summer coming up I will be posting about summer style and how you can kill it at the next bbq or an evening on the town in warm summer weather.

Until next time.

Sports

There is a massive difference between watching and participating in sports. Participating in sports is a masculine pursuit. Certain sporting activities have, through the ages, been ways to keep your senses high and competitive spirit sharp in times of peace. Sports were ways that men practiced for combat. Masculine sports are ways to feed virility, become robust and foster male friendships. In order to achieve these goals there is one important rule: women cannot participate. There is a time and a place for the women in your life. Neither the field of battle nor the field of sport is that place. The reason is really very simple, there is no honour in competition with women and part of your purpose in sport is to increase your masculine edge and make male friendships. Particularly in combat sports, women always bring down the level of intensity and competition.

Now, not all sports are manly. Here is a solid list to start:
Rugby: This is a man’s sport through and through. Have you ever met a beta male rugby player? No, I didn’t think so. Rugby is a traditional masculine sport of the Anglo-Saxon sphere that has spread throughout the world. Playing rugby promotes good health, vitality and robustness as well as fostering solid, masculine friendships.
Fencing: The art of the sword. Fencing promotes robustness and virility as well. In addition, it provides you with excellent physical challenges, aggressiveness, mental acuity and self defense. If you can handle a foil you can handle a stick.
Martial Arts: There are two kinds of martial arts; sport and combative. You should always go with the combative such as Krav Maga, traditional forms of Karate such as Kyokushin, Goju, or western style boxing. I will write more in depth on this topic at another time. The main things to look for are aggressive, real world training and sparring. I don’t recommend sport martial arts such as BJJ, MMA or Tae Kwon Do as they are based around fighting an opponent with rules. If someone attacks you or your family, there are no rules. Martial arts training will provide discipline, a warrior’s outlook on life, physical fitness and real world self defense skills. As with the iron, getting into the ring with another man will always kick you the real deal. Either you are good enough or you aren’t. Martial arts aren’t an option for a man. This is something that you should be doing already.
Horseback riding/Polo: These may sound strange to Americans but both of these sports stem from a time when officers needed to be excellent horsemen. Obviously, both involve the control of not only yourself but an animal as well. If you can’t get involved in Polo then check out regular horseback riding. Western saddle is more accessible, but English saddle requires more skill. Either is incredibly manly.
American Football and Ice Hockey: I’ve lumped these two together because they are both beneficial but only when they are full contact. I played both sports in my younger days but when I tried to join an adult hockey league I found out that all of the local leagues did not permit physical contact or slap shots. I hung up my skates. Playing football or hockey without contact completely defeats the point. If you can play with contact then these are highly competitive, testosterone driven masculine sports par excellance.

Competitive shooting: This is a close second to martial arts. Just like the martial arts, this is something that you should be doing already. There are several organizations that offer competitive shooting courses as well as competitions. Not only will this keep your self-defense skills sharp but it also provides the opportunity for camaraderie and friendly competition. Shooting skeet/trap is also an excellent and traditional way for men to bond.

Stay away from watching sports as much as possible. Its OK to get together with the guys every now and then to watch a fight, but in general mainstream sports in the west have become extremely pussified. In addition, the major networks as well as sports league have it out to emasculate American men with their leftist SJW agenda. Stay away from this poison. The other pitfall with sports is the ease with which you can vicariously live through your favorite athlete and wind up living your own life less and less. You can hear this when guys speak about their team using the words “us”, “we” and other possessives as if they are actually on that team. How often have you heard, “Our defense was solid, but what we need to do to win next week is…” ad nauseam. The other pitfall is the cult of the athlete that is so prevalent with the American beta male. Some guys know more about their favorite athlete than they do about members of their own family, much less any sort of heroic figure of ages past who would really be worthy of emulating.

Now, there is one final word of advice in regards to sports: never put another man’s name on your back. How many guys do you see walking around wearing a jersey with another man’s name on the back of it? I see a lot of them. Don’t be this guy. Your name is your signature. Your name is your brand. Do you, not someone else. In addition, as a grown man you shouldn’t be walking around town wearing a jersey anyway. But that is a story for another day.

Until next time.

Those Who Work Reap the Rewards

Wednesday was my fasting day. It had been almost 24 hours since I had eaten and it was time to hit the weights. It was one of my squat days among other things. As I looked at my workout log from last week I immediately began to come up with reasons why I couldn’t or wouldn’t beat last week’s weight, actually I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to be able to keep up with last week. After all, I told myself, I hadn’t eaten since the evening before, if I just went easy it would be totally excusable. I even promised myself that I would make it up on Thursday when I had eaten more. “Yeah, that’s it! I’ll kick its ass tomorrow!”

Right about then my alpha self chimed in. “If not now, then when?” My alpha self told me to push it, work throught the pain, the weakness, the fatigue, the hunger. “Don’t take a single step back.” I resolved that I would, at the very least, not lift less than last week. I would grind through it. I lifted the first set, not bad. The second set was better, I felt myself getting aggressive, I felt the drive to win come back, I added weight. By the third and fourth set I was up on weight and could feel, that I had more in me. More weights went on the bar. Now I was pumped! I felt newfound stamina and energy pumping through my veins.  I switched to sets of one rep and loaded on the bar. I kept going, beating last week was no problem.

Our nature is to seek the easy route. If we could cruise through life in an easy chair we would be tempted to do that. We are tempted, but experience shows us that we would be completely unfulfilled. Take a look around. See the vast majority of guys out there? They are the ones who opted for the easy chair, they chose it. That is not for us. What do most guys live for today? The weekend? Your “two weeks paid vacation”? Getting plastered on Friday night watching tv, then getting up at 11am hung over on Saturday morning?

For us, leisure time is a reward for hard work but it is also preparation for taking things to the next level. For an alpha male, the classical man, leisure time is controlled, every minute is enjoyed because it is the fruit of his hard work, whether it be business, training or both. We push to succeed and to excel. Our pursuits, including leisure, make us better men. I am a better man today than I was before working out yesterday.

In letters to his son, Lord Chesterfield had the following to say both about leisure and hard work: “In short, pleasure must not, nay, cannot be the business of a man of sense and character; but it may be, and is, his reward.” Furthermore, Aristotle himself tells us; “Happiness then, cannot consist in mere recreative pastime: for it is absurd to think that all our serious exertions and strenuous labors should terminate in so frivolous an end. We do not labor that we may be idle….we are idle that we may labor with more effect…”.

What are some things that we can do to right now to make our lives more productive, and start reaping some rewards?

Working out is such a pure form of masculine character building. The weights do not lie, they are pure: you lift them or you don’t. There are no excuses. There is no; “could have, should have, would have”, you give it your all or you don’t. The weights don’t care who you are, where you come from, where you are going. I highly suggest reading “The Iron” by Henry Rollins.

Coupled with working out we choose to eat right. It takes discipline and control to choose healthy eating to that piece of cake or to not go out drinking with your buddies. We don’t really deny ourselves, we just choose a higher level of life, we choose those things that will only make us stronger. Then, at some point, we can reward our hard work and have some cake, or go out with our buddies for some beers. We work first, reward later. The reward is always smaller in proportion to the amount of work.

We manage our time wisely. If you are new to this, it means eliminating television from your life. I don’t mean throw it out, but stop watching it. Use your television only to watch things that motivate you, movies that show strong masculine leads. Don’t watch “chick flicks” and don’t watch network T.V. We determine our own schedules. We must control our schedules, or else we risk loosing ourselves.

It is essential for a man to have a passion in life. Are you passionate for your current job? Are you passionate about working for someone else and making them money? Of course, an alpha man has a work ethic and strives to excel and be the top dog where he is at, but eventually the call of the wild will need to be answered. He will need to devote his time to those things that he is passionate about. One of these things will be his own entrepreneurship. One of the many benefits of being an alpha male is that our passions overlap with those things that build us up as well. We become passionate about weight lifting, martial arts, business, learning, and sport just to name a few. Since we live a life of purpose, we love the things that we do. In fact, we love the man that we are becoming.