Sports

There is a massive difference between watching and participating in sports. Participating in sports is a masculine pursuit. Certain sporting activities have, through the ages, been ways to keep your senses high and competitive spirit sharp in times of peace. Sports were ways that men practiced for combat. Masculine sports are ways to feed virility, become robust and foster male friendships. In order to achieve these goals there is one important rule: women cannot participate. There is a time and a place for the women in your life. Neither the field of battle nor the field of sport is that place. The reason is really very simple, there is no honour in competition with women and part of your purpose in sport is to increase your masculine edge and make male friendships. Particularly in combat sports, women always bring down the level of intensity and competition.

Now, not all sports are manly. Here is a solid list to start:
Rugby: This is a man’s sport through and through. Have you ever met a beta male rugby player? No, I didn’t think so. Rugby is a traditional masculine sport of the Anglo-Saxon sphere that has spread throughout the world. Playing rugby promotes good health, vitality and robustness as well as fostering solid, masculine friendships.
Fencing: The art of the sword. Fencing promotes robustness and virility as well. In addition, it provides you with excellent physical challenges, aggressiveness, mental acuity and self defense. If you can handle a foil you can handle a stick.
Martial Arts: There are two kinds of martial arts; sport and combative. You should always go with the combative such as Krav Maga, traditional forms of Karate such as Kyokushin, Goju, or western style boxing. I will write more in depth on this topic at another time. The main things to look for are aggressive, real world training and sparring. I don’t recommend sport martial arts such as BJJ, MMA or Tae Kwon Do as they are based around fighting an opponent with rules. If someone attacks you or your family, there are no rules. Martial arts training will provide discipline, a warrior’s outlook on life, physical fitness and real world self defense skills. As with the iron, getting into the ring with another man will always kick you the real deal. Either you are good enough or you aren’t. Martial arts aren’t an option for a man. This is something that you should be doing already.
Horseback riding/Polo: These may sound strange to Americans but both of these sports stem from a time when officers needed to be excellent horsemen. Obviously, both involve the control of not only yourself but an animal as well. If you can’t get involved in Polo then check out regular horseback riding. Western saddle is more accessible, but English saddle requires more skill. Either is incredibly manly.
American Football and Ice Hockey: I’ve lumped these two together because they are both beneficial but only when they are full contact. I played both sports in my younger days but when I tried to join an adult hockey league I found out that all of the local leagues did not permit physical contact or slap shots. I hung up my skates. Playing football or hockey without contact completely defeats the point. If you can play with contact then these are highly competitive, testosterone driven masculine sports par excellance.

Competitive shooting: This is a close second to martial arts. Just like the martial arts, this is something that you should be doing already. There are several organizations that offer competitive shooting courses as well as competitions. Not only will this keep your self-defense skills sharp but it also provides the opportunity for camaraderie and friendly competition. Shooting skeet/trap is also an excellent and traditional way for men to bond.

Stay away from watching sports as much as possible. Its OK to get together with the guys every now and then to watch a fight, but in general mainstream sports in the west have become extremely pussified. In addition, the major networks as well as sports league have it out to emasculate American men with their leftist SJW agenda. Stay away from this poison. The other pitfall with sports is the ease with which you can vicariously live through your favorite athlete and wind up living your own life less and less. You can hear this when guys speak about their team using the words “us”, “we” and other possessives as if they are actually on that team. How often have you heard, “Our defense was solid, but what we need to do to win next week is…” ad nauseam. The other pitfall is the cult of the athlete that is so prevalent with the American beta male. Some guys know more about their favorite athlete than they do about members of their own family, much less any sort of heroic figure of ages past who would really be worthy of emulating.

Now, there is one final word of advice in regards to sports: never put another man’s name on your back. How many guys do you see walking around wearing a jersey with another man’s name on the back of it? I see a lot of them. Don’t be this guy. Your name is your signature. Your name is your brand. Do you, not someone else. In addition, as a grown man you shouldn’t be walking around town wearing a jersey anyway. But that is a story for another day.

Until next time.

Valentine’s Day

A few years ago I wrote a post about Valentine’s Day. This has been one of my most read posts over the years. I want to touch on Valentine’s day again as it can be such a trap for men in our culture. The trap that I will cover this year is specifically aimed at men in a committed relationship. Remember that Valentine’s Day is a fabricated holiday, it reaps financial rewards for greeting card makers, candy makers and jewelers just to name a few. That being said, the object of your affection will be under great pressure from her friends and society at large to be treated extra special by you on this day. If you follow the narrative set by romance movies and society she will quickly lose respect for you and start to look elsewhere. Its a hard truth but I can tell you that in my younger days I had more relationships end after having sent flowers to a woman than any other reason.

I’m not against doing kind things for your woman or buying her gifts now and then, as long as it is on your terms and coming from a position of strength. These times where I lost the girl, I was coming from a position of weakness and she could sense it a mile away. Receiving flowers from me actually disgusted her. Let that sink in.

You might ask how to balance your terms with her feelings? Well, here is how: always be in control. You must, being the man, control the relationship. This doesn’t mean to be controlling, but rather, as the man, you are in charge, you are the head of the household, the head of the relationship. You are the strong, attractive man whom she respects. This has to happen before Valentine’s day. This has to happen from your first interaction with any woman. Assuming that you have done this during the course of your relationship, the majority of the pressure to perform on Valentine’s day is off of you. The reason is that she already gushes when she talks to her friends about you. If you’ve followed this advice I guarantee that you are the man that her friends wish they were sleeping with. This gives you a LARGE margin of error.

If you haven’t been living this life then trying to do something monumental on Valentine’s Day will only start the ball rolling for the end of your relationship. What you can do is right now is begin to live with purpose, live for yourself, take charge of the relationship, establish and maintain polarity and of course, always be the most well dressed man in any room.

I have to attach a warning to this post. If you choose to live as you want, to be a man, then you will encounter push back from her. She will test you, its totally normal. At this point you will choose your future. You can fall into her frame which will contribute to you losing her. You can maintain your frame and pass the test or you can maintain your frame and realize that she is no longer the woman that you want to devote time to. The choice is yours.

 

 

Until next time.