The New Year

There are two ways that you can ring in the New Year. You can get so drunk that you need at least a whole day to recover, or you can celebrate like a man and get down to work.

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The New Year is something to celebrate. Once again, it is a time with family and friends to celebrate the accomplishments of the old year, memorialize those that left us in that year as well as look forward to crushing new goals and accomplishments.
Festivities give us small breaks to re-energize us on our journey. The New Year celebrations do this for our goals and life plans. Take a step back, take an honest inventory of the past year. Now, with renewed vigor, celebrate and move forward towards accomplishing what you want in life.
I generally have my goals for the next year put on paper by late October. I would suggest this method, but if you haven’t yet done this, it is not too late. Take the time today to get away from distraction, quite your mind and write down the things that you want to do in the next 3 years, and the next year. I have material goals, but I also have others dealing with fitness, character and the like. I suggest you do the same.

There is much to be done, so why would you want to start the year on the same note as the vast herds of sheeple who are partying their lives away? I would suggest beginning the year with a 30 day challenge of your own. If you don’t already do it, add in 30 days of cold showers. Start the year off right.

 

Wishing you a happy and prosperous 2018.

 

 

 

 

How to Schedule Your Day for Maximum Effectiveness

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Your time is the most valuable asset that you have, and the present is the only thing that you have to work with as the past is gone and the future is not yet here. Successful men always control their narrative and how they spend their time is no exception. In his masterpiece, “Sun and Steel”, Yukio Mishima lays out the duality between the day and the night. According to him the day is for action while the night is for contemplation. I have found this to be true in my own experience and also in researching the lives of my ancestors. In times past, men often retreated to contemplation and discussion after a hearty dinner and hard day of work. The evening was the time when men pondered the mysteries of life, dreamed and discussed great things. These thoughts turn into action.
Boiled down to its essence, focus on action during the day, contemplation and leisure in the evening. Now, this isn’t a hard and fast rule. You will take vacations and you may do leisure activities during the day in conjunction with business. What we are really focusing on is the majority of your work days.
Before you can sit down and plan your day, you need to have a solid idea of what you want out of life. What is your passion or your Thumos? You must know yourself, your passion and your purpose in order to effectively plan anything. If you don’t yet know these things, take the time to really find out. It will be one of the best investments that you ever make.
Once you know your purpose in life and your subsequent goals you’ll be able to realistically break down your months, weeks and days. This will allow you to focus your time and energy on the most important things and filter out the rest. The first step to success will be to plan out your week on Sunday and plan out each day’s daily tasks the evening before. In my experience, writing out your goals for the week and then scheduling your day hour by hour is the most effective plan. Your schedule needs to be realistic and attainable. Once you have set it you must stick to it like glue. As usual, people will criticize you for this. You’ll hear things like, “Its not good to be so rigid, you need to kick back too!”. This comes from dudes who get to the gym once and then decide to “take it easy tonight”. Their opinions don’t matter. Don’t pay any attention. Once you start to plan your schedule and do it, you’ll realize how much time you’ve wasted with crap, but you will also gain invaluable perspective on how you want to spend your time. Not only will scheduling increase your productivity but it will also increase your quality of life because you will only give time to people and pursuits that fit into your game plan. The idea of wasting time will begin to disgust you if it already hasn’t.
Here are some fundamental ways that you can start. I personally do all of these things daily:
1) Get up early, 5 am is ideal. Getting up early will make you feel good. You’ll accomplish so much constructive work by the time most people are hitting snooze on their alarm clocks. If you are not a “morning person” that works even better; you’ll feel great by pushing yourself to get up early. “Sleeping in” on the weekends should not exceed 6 am.
2) Practice awareness training. I do this in the morning before anything else as well as at varying times during the day. I find that it helps me to clear my mind of unnecessary garbage and to keep my focus on my goals. You should have your life goals written down. Make sure to look them over in the morning and throughout the day. Make sure that you plan how you will take action towards each goal today.
3) Your work. Focus on the task at hand, forget trying to multi-task. Dive into your work, your creation, your art. Give it 1000% . If you are still working for someone else then treat this as a learning experience. Keep you your goals in front of you always and move towards them. If you approach the “daily grind” as a business school you will be making good use of your time. Use your lunch time to further your goals by writing for your blog, reading to improve yourself, get to the gym, go for a walk and practice your day game, etc.. Don’t waste it hanging out with the guys from the office eating shit food and wasting time talking about last night’s game.
4) Warrior training. This includes hitting the gym. Don’t forget the other aspects of your training either: martial arts, shooting both rifle and pistol as well as other weapons.

5)Masculine pursuits.  Once your work day is over and you have workout out and done your warrior training then it is time to shift the focus of your day to the contemplative. This is the point in the day where you will read, study, learn. You can also take part in other forms of masculine leisure such as playing chess, reading or writing. Keep the tv turned off and sell your gaming console. Trust me, when you are lying on your deathbed you won’t be wishing that you had played “Call of Duty” one last time.

6) Meals. These obviously come at different times during the day. The main thing is to eat healthy and prepare your food ahead of time.  There are so many fitness articles online that stress the importance of meal prep. My experience has taught me that this is one of the few universal truths of the fitness industry. Make the time to do it. Take the time to eat, don’t rush it. If possible, eat with someone else and converse. Put the phone away and keep the tv off. If you have a family make sure to eat dinner together at the table each and ever night. Have your wife cook for you and prepare the table. Offer her encouragement to do so. Get to know local restaurants where you can find good, healthy food. When you are going out to eat for business or pleasure make the choice of one of these restaurants.

7) Plan for the next day’s success. Before bed time give yourself ample time to review your goals and what you did to accomplish them today, then write down your plan for the next day.

8) Go to bed, wake up the next day and repeat.

 

 

Know your purpose. This narrows things down. Have goals. Focus only on the important things. Practice mindfulness, awareness.

These are the keys to succesfully planning your day.

Until next time.

 

The Holidays, Tradition and Masculinity

Having just passed through Thanksgiving weekend we are officially in the midst of the holiday season. Many men that I know have dropped out of the holiday madness being disgusted by the commercialism that surrounds modern western holidays. After all, why wouldn’t you want to drop out? The reality is that any religious meaning, anything deeper than Black Friday was stripped away from the holidays long ago.  What is Thanksgiving but a day to spend with family giving thanks for all of the good things that you have, expressing the manly virtue of gratitude. Yet today Thanksgiving means wasting time watching football, then stuffing yourself to the point of nausea in a gluttony fueled orgy of food. Maybe you’ll sleep on the couch after watching a superhero movie only to be aroused at 4am to get on line at the local mall for a “Black Friday” deal. Don’t forget to run into the bathroom a couple of times to jack off too. Truth be told, I’m depressed just writing about it.

But, dropping out is the way of the coward. This is because men are needed to bring back the traditions and the deeper meanings of life. There is a great line in Charles Sledge’s book, “Man Up”; “A healthy world is forged by healthy nations, healthy nations are forged by strong tribes, strong tribes are forged by strong families, strong families are forged by strong men.”
Gentlemen, we are the guardians of tradition. As we all know, women are emotionally driven and therefore will be blown like leaves in the wind. We men are the rock, the solid foundation of family life and the greater society as a whole. We are the bedrock of our families, churches, businesses, and society as a whole. Our traditions guide us, give us a constant light in all times of happiness or sadness. Tradition is important. Myth is important. Legend is important. Our ancestors knew this. People only two generations ago knew this. We urgently need to reconnect with this. Our nations, societies and families need us to reconnect with this.

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Identity is critical to a man. Identity is just as important to a family and society as it is to an individual. Look at it this way; tradition and myth are to a family what frame is to a man. They are the guiding force, the boundaries that everyone knows and respects. They are the customs of how we show respect to each other, to honor your ancestors and your God. The key with traditions is that they must be diligently kept and observed. They are perishable and fragile. They can disappear in a generation, and many have. The holidays are the perfect time to rediscover traditions.

There are two different types of tradition in relation to the holidays. The first type of traditions are the age old traditions of your culture. If you’ve grown up in the west disconnected from your heritage then now is the time to find it. All it takes is a few internet searches and you can easily find ways that your not so distant ancestors celebrated Christmas and the New Year. Expand this to other feasts throughout the year. You’ll find that your ancestors celebrated everything. They lived a cycle of life much different from us yet much healthier. If you are a Christian you will find this in the cycles of fasting and feasting laid out throughout the year.

The second type of tradition has to do with the details of your family life. These are the little things that you do with your family like trekking out in the snow somewhere to cut down a Christmas tree or a certain type of Christmas cookie that your wife makes perfectly for you. These types of tradition are extremely important as they give you and your family shared, happy experiences to enjoy together and forge your bonds with each other.

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It is important that you are the driving force behind this. Let your woman know what these traditions are and that they are to be kept diligently. She will take that from you and do everything in her power to produce your wishes for the respective holiday down to the last detail. You will enjoy watching her fuss over the smallest detail to please you and your wishes.
If you are not married yet then spend time with your family, observing your family traditions. Take care to learn them. Those who are passing the torch to you will not live forever. You need to take up that torch as a man and carry it forward, one day passing it on to your offspring. You will carry this tradition on with you when you get married. If you don’t get along with your family now, or you live away from them, use this time to research what you will want things to look like when you do have a family of your own.

Until next time.

What Does It Mean to Be Strong?

Being strong physically and emotionally is essential to being a man. Emotional strength is something that is sorely lacking in today’s men. Emotional strength is so important that this is why other men and women are hard wired to shit test you. Yes, other men will shit test you and if you think about it, you shit test other men. The reason is simple: women shit test to see if you are a worthy mate, men shit test to see if you are someone worthy of allowing into their tribe. Ultimately, a shit test is something that is testing your emotional strength.

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In short, emotional strength boils down to having an incredibly strong sense of self. The lion knows who he is. There is no angst, no anxiety, no worry, he IS the king of the jungle.

 

A strong sense of self is your frame. If you read any PUA sites or forums you’ll immediately notice that frame and frame control are among the most written about topics. The PUA definition of frame is certainly true, yet myopic. Your frame is much more than just passing shit tests and controlling your interactions with women. Your frame is your belief system. It is the set of beliefs that guide you in all interactions, not just with women. Once you’ve established your belief system then you must be congruent with your inner beliefs. This is often referred to as integrity. Behaving this way becomes your frame. You need to know who you are, how you interact with the world around you. Violating your integrity will cost you. The less you live authentically, the more depressed you become.

To begin with, you must find your core values and beliefs. Who are you and what do you stand for? What are your non negotiable stances? You should know who you are in relation to all things. If you don’t know any of these things then work on establishing these foundations. One of my favorite quotes on this topic comes from “Operation Werewolf”: “Know who you are by becoming who you want to be.”

Who do you want to be? What would you look like if you were this man? How would you behave if you were the man that you want to be? What would that man stand for? How would his relationships be with other people? Be honest with yourself. Remember, you are not living someone else’s life and they aren’t living  yours. In this quest of yours taking time to write in a journal will be essential. I would also recommend controlling your thoughts by mindfulness and presence. Once you have a basic idea then begin to act like that man. Action will be the only thing that changes you. Be authentic. As you gain strength your own weaknesses will be more apparent to you. This can be frustrating. For most guys it is demoralizing and they give up. While you will act to correct your weaknesses, you should also accept that you have them; every man does. As you uncover more and more of yourself in relation to who you want to be, your ideal may change. This is OK, it means that you are growing.

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Strive for consistency in your moods and behaviors but balance it with passion for life and fearlessness. While I am a major fan of reading and educating myself, much of your progress in this area will come from the ring or the gym. In order to know yourself and who you really are you must fight and you must lift. Getting into a ring with another man and fighting or grappling is a great equalizer; there is no bullshit. The gym will also teach this to you as 300 lbs is always going to be 300 lbs; either you can lift it or you can’t. As Henry Rollins said; “Learning about what you’re made of is time well spent and I’ve found no better teacher.”

Finally, its not all about you. Others are relying on you to be a strong man; society, your business, your buddies, your wife, your kids,, your animals and your parents. They all need you more than ever to dig deep down and become the strong man that you are destined to be.

Until next time.

 

Masculine Pursuits

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Recently I wrote a post about masculine sports. This post will be about some other masculine pursuits that could make up a man’s leisure time. For a man, there really isn’t something called “free time” and there is certainly no time spent in idleness. We all need time away, time for leisure, but what sets “leisure” aside is that it is always constructive. Leisure isn’t idle time wasted binge watching Netflix. Leisure is pursuing character building activities that also relax us. This allow us to recharge, an essential part of living that many of us have forgotten today. Wasting “free time” doing nothing leaves you feeling empty, regretful and depressed. Using your leisure time for character building will leave you feeling refreshed, constructive and accomplished. You’ll leave your vacation or your weekend feeling like more of a man, you’ll feel invigorated. While your normal routine of working out, martial arts and sports satisfy the visceral side of you some balance is important. Aim to be the impeccably dressed man with a black eye who is able to talk about Shostakovitch. Trust me, women go crazy for this type of man.

I want to explain one thing: I’m not against watching good movies that contribute to your masculine education. There are many foreign movies that are easily obtainable and have strong, masculine leads. My only advice would be to limit movie watching to 1 per week at the most. As for television it is mostly a waste of time. Again, you may find some series on line that are foreign and worth watching. Just remember that even good, character building movies and television shows must be watched in moderation.

That being said, here is a break down of some masculine pursuits for you leisure time:

 

 

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The Arts: You don’t have to be a pianist, painter or anything else. You do need to have an appreciation for the arts. You should be completely familiar with classical composers and their works as well as artists and their works. Explore the different periods and styles, learn what to listen to or look for. Find your favorite. Decorate your home and office with art. You can buy affordable prints of classical art online. Put them in a nice frame and know the story behind the scene in the painting, the artist and what he was trying to represent. You should be a regular at your local symphony and art museums. Finally, look for new artists who are doing things that you like and support them. Become a patron of the arts, help to bring about a resurgence of classical arts and music.

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Writing: This is a double pronged pursuit. You should be writing in a journal at least once per day. Maybe you discover along the way that you have a knack for writing and you have something to say. Maybe you want to write a novel, a biography or a philosophical treatise. Either way, keeping a journal is a fantastic way to see where your mind is, what you are thinking and what kinds of patterns are coming up in your life. Some days I’ll write pages and pages, other days its only a paragraph or two. The quality of my life has vastly improved through journal writing.

Chess: This is the king of all games. Chess is an amazing way to develop your mind, learn about people and keep your mind sharp. Chess is best played after dinner while having some cognac. Chess will teach you about people, thinking ahead, and adapting your strategy to evolving conditions. Play it against a real person, face to face.

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Travel/Exploring/Hiking: It is essential to get outside and experience the world at large. If traveling the world isn’t in your budget right now then travel your country, your state or your city. The key is to get out and experience life, expanding your horizons. Additionally, there are very few ways to clear your head like a good hike in nature. You should get out to nature often with no distractions. Camping is also a great pursuit and a practical skill as well. Challenge yourself to learn new skills each time you go camping so that you become more and more self reliant. If you are a father of boys then you have no option, you must teach them how to be outdoors men.

Spending time with others: We live in a technological, isolated society. People have hundreds of Facebook “friends” yet no real friends that they actually spend time with. Choose your friends carefully, trust very few. When you have established a small social circle of trusted male friends it becomes a great stress reducer to spend time with them. Your friends should be trustworthy. There is no such thing as a “frienemy”. If you can’t trust them, they shouldn’t be in your social circle. You cannot trust “friends” that you have made over social media. You cannot trust someone until you have looked into their eyes and spent time with them. The internet is full of frauds. Get out into the meat space.

That brings me to the next level: spending time with beautiful women. You should limit your time with women lest you become feminized. There is no such thing as “friends” of the opposite sex. Don’t waste your time. Your time is valuable, you have many things that you are doing, spending time with a beautiuful woman is a great masculine pursuit. Beautiful women are extremely feminine. Enjoy relaxing with her and observing how your masculinity and her femininity feed off of each other. In general, don’t waste your time with American women unless you find one who has rejected modern American way of life. Increase your odds dramatically by finding foreign women, preferably from your ancestral background.

Philosophy/Theology: Knowing at least the basics of philosophical ideas is absolutely necessary. Reading and learning philsophy makes you a better conversationalist, teaches critical thinking skills, broadens your horizons and helps you to see how others think. Begin with the great philosophers as well as the major political philosophies. Likewise, learn about the theology of your own religion as well as having a general knowledge of other major theologies as well.

Every thing that we do must contribute to our masculinity. In addition to masculine sport, these masculine pursuits will lead to a full, balanced, masculine life.

Until next time.

 

 

The Well Dressed Leader

If you look at any number of websites or books centered around being an alpha male, you will, without a doubt, come across the topic of dressing well. First off, be very careful where you go for men’s style advice, a lot of the famous PUA’s dress like clowns. I’m not a fan of “peacocking”. It’s much better to be a well dressed badass. Think James Bond.
This is an important topic for several reasons. The first is that dressing well reflects your inner disposition. What do you think of when you picture a guy with ill-fitting clothes, shirt untucked, not groomed? Yeah, you think he’s a slob and that is what he thinks of himself inside. If he didn’t feel this way about himself he would never dress like this, even when no one is looking.
What do you think of a guy who wears a suit that “kind of” fits him, finished off with a Disney tie? Beta shlub? Yeah, once again you are right. You’re probably looking at a dude whose wife disdains him. That’s the dude who gets laid once per year and the rest of the time anesthetized by a steady stream of junk food, porn, video games and watching sports.
Finally, there is the man who you see with a suit that fits him well, he’s wearing a power tie and french cuffs. You got it, that’s the alpha male. Don’t mistake this for a man obsessed with his looks, he’s not a metro sexual by any means, rather this is a man who knows how to look good and has a solid sense of self that reflects in how he dresses.

I can’t overstate the importance of dressing well and taking care of yourself for a healthy inner disposition. When I was in the service and going through a survival course, the importance of retaining normalcy in a survival situation was always stressed. Even in dire straits, you maintain military bearing, shave, wash, take care of yourself when possible. This is how important you outward appearance is to you. A lot of otherwise masculine men will downplay the importance of dressing well, seeing it as being metro sexual. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Being vain, feminine and metro sexual means dressing for others. Being a masculine man who dresses well, a well dressed badass, means that you dress this way for yourself. The secondary benefits will be how others will treat you, including women.

What should you do if your internal dialogue/image is not where it needs to be? What you can do is turn the dynamic around and use your external appearance to help you think better.

Here are some things that you can do immediately to improve the way you dress:

  1. Purchase a custom tailored shirt, jacket or suit. Wearing a well-tailored suit sets you apart immediately from those around you. Most guys in America today rarely wear a suit. When they do put one on they are visibly uncomfortable in it. You will stand out like a light house in your customer tailored suit and shirt combo. You can purchase either or both here for a great price.
  2. That being said, you’ll be looking fantastic in your newly tailored suit, so you’ll need to wear it. Get into the habit of wearing your suit. Going out for a couple of drinks? Put it on. Go out for a nice dinner? Put it on. Going downtown to do some shopping? Put it on. Get used to being in a suit. I guarantee that you’ll also notice the difference in how people treat you. You’ll like it.
  3. Always wear french cuffs with a jacket. Get several shirts made with french cuffs. Cuff links are not expensive. You can get yourself several pairs to change things up. This is where your individuality comes in. Find masculine cuff links that you like. This will allow you to have several sets to change things up.
  4. Purchase several ties. Go with power ties and power colors. You are a man, dress like it. Do NOT, I repeat Do NOT wear ties with Disney characters, superheros, sports team logos or anything like that. If you dress like a clown you will deservedly be treated like a clown. Consider yourself warned. If you live in Great Britain or any of the Commonwealth and have earned the honor to wear a regimental tie, do it; I’m jealous of you.
  5. Wear a pocket square every single time that  you wear a jacket.
  6. Wear a nice, masculine watch. You can find a good variety of reasonably priced watches on Amazon.
  7. Start to experiment. Find your particular style. Look to Europe, particularly England, for masculine ways to dress well. While there are some good blogs around for men that are coming out of America, I still recommend looking overseas. The reason is that masculine style is about more than just the surface, it’s about tradition, it’s about strength. America doesn’t have the tradition of a masculine aristocracy, so you’ll have to look elsewhere.
  8. Don’t ever walk into a church service wearing anything but a suit.
  9. Do not wear a tie without a jacket.

With summer coming up I will be posting about summer style and how you can kill it at the next bbq or an evening on the town in warm summer weather.

Until next time.

Insecure Thoughts and How to Deal With Them

Insecure thoughts can be debilitating. They can sap your energy, send you into depression, cause outbursts of anger and reflect in your outward behaviors. These thoughts absolutely kill your game, business opportunities, relationships and limit your success.
How many relationships or opportunities have you lost in life because of your insecurities? How many times have you lied to others because you were insecure in yourself? Do you realize that this causes a downward spiral of depression to the point that you’ve lied so much you don’t know what is true anymore?
This begs the question; how can you change? There are a variety of different ways and many of them have to do with your particular situation. What I have found that works wonders is practicing awareness, presence and for lack of a better term; meditating. This is a great way to get used to living in the moment as well. It will help your listening skills, your productivity and your game. In modern societies we’re not used to living in the here and now. Our thoughts are racing in a million different directions, making us dissipated and distracted. If you boil it down to its essence, the present is the only moment that we are really guaranteed, it is really all that we have. Why then, would we want to be anywhere else? Most people go through their lives worried about the future or trying to change the past. The present gets lost in the shuffle. Working on mindfulness will change that.
I am going to give  you a step by step method that has worked and continues to work for me every day. First, you need to sit in a quiet spot. Find somewhere comfortable for you. It can be inside or outside, it doesn’t matter as long as it is fairly quiet. Sit straight with feet firmly planted on the ground. Mind your posture, make sure that you are breathing easily and well. Make sure that your head, neck and body are in alignment so that you can breathe fully. Now, just relax and breath. Hear the sounds around you. Feel your feet on the ground etc. Now just focus on being where you are at that very moment. Thoughts will rush into your head. You’ll start thinking thoughts about what other people think, how this person is trying to surpass you, what this chick thinks of you, what this person said to you, what you are going to have for dinner etc. Don’t be discouraged, you need these thoughts to grow and learn. Just gently remind yourself that all of those thoughts are garbage. What matters is being where you are, in the moment. Keep reminding yourself that the only moment that matters is the present. Focus back on the sounds around you. You’ll want to have a longer, more involved block of time in the morning to give you a base every day. Then you’ll want to set an alarm during the day to do this for 5 minutes at a time. You can do this by performing a shortened version of the above ritual, or go for a walk. The key, again, is to be in the present moment. Be patient with yourself and always remember that the thoughts will come in, they must or else you won’t learn. One key point to remember is that you are not “fighting” these thoughts, just deflecting them. In doing this you should not feel any tension at all. If you are tensing up and “fighting” then you aren’t doing this particular exercise correctly. It should give you clarity and peace. Some days will be better than others. Some days you’ll feel like you completely failed at your exercise, don’t lose heart, keep moving forward and you will soon see the benefits.
What you’ll notice in a short period of time is that you are starting to give no credence to your insecure, negative thoughts. You are getting into the habit of focusing on the present moment and realizing how “those thoughts don’t matter”. With time and consistent work you will start to focus only on thoughts that matter. You’ll become much more adept at recognizing useless thoughts right off the bat and deflecting them. This also applies to thoughts having to do with low self-esteem, anxiety, fear or whatever it is that is holding you back. You’ll realize that these are just distracting, useless thoughts. Practicing this method will give you a ZFG attitude and outcome independence not only with game but also with business. You’ll also slowly begin to realize that you are happier and able to enjoy being in the moment doing what you are doing at any given time. That subtle, nagging anxiety in your gut will melt away to be replaced by your stronger self. Make sure that you are also doing things to strengthen yourself, both mentally and physically.

Finally, it is important to maintain consistency in all areas of your life. You’ll find it impossible to focus your thoughts while living in a cluttered environment. This is why you need to be, or become a minimalist.

Until next time.

 

Sports

There is a massive difference between watching and participating in sports. Participating in sports is a masculine pursuit. Certain sporting activities have, through the ages, been ways to keep your senses high and competitive spirit sharp in times of peace. Sports were ways that men practiced for combat. Masculine sports are ways to feed virility, become robust and foster male friendships. In order to achieve these goals there is one important rule: women cannot participate. There is a time and a place for the women in your life. Neither the field of battle nor the field of sport is that place. The reason is really very simple, there is no honour in competition with women and part of your purpose in sport is to increase your masculine edge and make male friendships. Particularly in combat sports, women always bring down the level of intensity and competition.

Now, not all sports are manly. Here is a solid list to start:
Rugby: This is a man’s sport through and through. Have you ever met a beta male rugby player? No, I didn’t think so. Rugby is a traditional masculine sport of the Anglo-Saxon sphere that has spread throughout the world. Playing rugby promotes good health, vitality and robustness as well as fostering solid, masculine friendships.
Fencing: The art of the sword. Fencing promotes robustness and virility as well. In addition, it provides you with excellent physical challenges, aggressiveness, mental acuity and self defense. If you can handle a foil you can handle a stick.
Martial Arts: There are two kinds of martial arts; sport and combative. You should always go with the combative such as Krav Maga, traditional forms of Karate such as Kyokushin, Goju, or western style boxing. I will write more in depth on this topic at another time. The main things to look for are aggressive, real world training and sparring. I don’t recommend sport martial arts such as BJJ, MMA or Tae Kwon Do as they are based around fighting an opponent with rules. If someone attacks you or your family, there are no rules. Martial arts training will provide discipline, a warrior’s outlook on life, physical fitness and real world self defense skills. As with the iron, getting into the ring with another man will always kick you the real deal. Either you are good enough or you aren’t. Martial arts aren’t an option for a man. This is something that you should be doing already.
Horseback riding/Polo: These may sound strange to Americans but both of these sports stem from a time when officers needed to be excellent horsemen. Obviously, both involve the control of not only yourself but an animal as well. If you can’t get involved in Polo then check out regular horseback riding. Western saddle is more accessible, but English saddle requires more skill. Either is incredibly manly.
American Football and Ice Hockey: I’ve lumped these two together because they are both beneficial but only when they are full contact. I played both sports in my younger days but when I tried to join an adult hockey league I found out that all of the local leagues did not permit physical contact or slap shots. I hung up my skates. Playing football or hockey without contact completely defeats the point. If you can play with contact then these are highly competitive, testosterone driven masculine sports par excellance.

Competitive shooting: This is a close second to martial arts. Just like the martial arts, this is something that you should be doing already. There are several organizations that offer competitive shooting courses as well as competitions. Not only will this keep your self-defense skills sharp but it also provides the opportunity for camaraderie and friendly competition. Shooting skeet/trap is also an excellent and traditional way for men to bond.

Stay away from watching sports as much as possible. Its OK to get together with the guys every now and then to watch a fight, but in general mainstream sports in the west have become extremely pussified. In addition, the major networks as well as sports league have it out to emasculate American men with their leftist SJW agenda. Stay away from this poison. The other pitfall with sports is the ease with which you can vicariously live through your favorite athlete and wind up living your own life less and less. You can hear this when guys speak about their team using the words “us”, “we” and other possessives as if they are actually on that team. How often have you heard, “Our defense was solid, but what we need to do to win next week is…” ad nauseam. The other pitfall is the cult of the athlete that is so prevalent with the American beta male. Some guys know more about their favorite athlete than they do about members of their own family, much less any sort of heroic figure of ages past who would really be worthy of emulating.

Now, there is one final word of advice in regards to sports: never put another man’s name on your back. How many guys do you see walking around wearing a jersey with another man’s name on the back of it? I see a lot of them. Don’t be this guy. Your name is your signature. Your name is your brand. Do you, not someone else. In addition, as a grown man you shouldn’t be walking around town wearing a jersey anyway. But that is a story for another day.

Until next time.

Valentine’s Day

A few years ago I wrote a post about Valentine’s Day. This has been one of my most read posts over the years. I want to touch on Valentine’s day again as it can be such a trap for men in our culture. The trap that I will cover this year is specifically aimed at men in a committed relationship. Remember that Valentine’s Day is a fabricated holiday, it reaps financial rewards for greeting card makers, candy makers and jewelers just to name a few. That being said, the object of your affection will be under great pressure from her friends and society at large to be treated extra special by you on this day. If you follow the narrative set by romance movies and society she will quickly lose respect for you and start to look elsewhere. Its a hard truth but I can tell you that in my younger days I had more relationships end after having sent flowers to a woman than any other reason.

I’m not against doing kind things for your woman or buying her gifts now and then, as long as it is on your terms and coming from a position of strength. These times where I lost the girl, I was coming from a position of weakness and she could sense it a mile away. Receiving flowers from me actually disgusted her. Let that sink in.

You might ask how to balance your terms with her feelings? Well, here is how: always be in control. You must, being the man, control the relationship. This doesn’t mean to be controlling, but rather, as the man, you are in charge, you are the head of the household, the head of the relationship. You are the strong, attractive man whom she respects. This has to happen before Valentine’s day. This has to happen from your first interaction with any woman. Assuming that you have done this during the course of your relationship, the majority of the pressure to perform on Valentine’s day is off of you. The reason is that she already gushes when she talks to her friends about you. If you’ve followed this advice I guarantee that you are the man that her friends wish they were sleeping with. This gives you a LARGE margin of error.

If you haven’t been living this life then trying to do something monumental on Valentine’s Day will only start the ball rolling for the end of your relationship. What you can do is right now is begin to live with purpose, live for yourself, take charge of the relationship, establish and maintain polarity and of course, always be the most well dressed man in any room.

I have to attach a warning to this post. If you choose to live as you want, to be a man, then you will encounter push back from her. She will test you, its totally normal. At this point you will choose your future. You can fall into her frame which will contribute to you losing her. You can maintain your frame and pass the test or you can maintain your frame and realize that she is no longer the woman that you want to devote time to. The choice is yours.

 

 

Until next time.

Why You Should Be A Nationalist.

What is a nationalist? It is someone who loves their culture, their ways and traditions. Contrary to the hive mind propaganda, being a nationalist has absolutely nothing to do with being a racist, fascist or Nazi. Being a nationalist means that you look out for the interests of your people. Being a nationalist allows you to recognize other’s pride in their own people, traditions, religion and customs as well. How can that be? Its simple. Here’s an example: Do you have a family? Do you look after your family? Do you protect your children? Do you work to put food on the table? Do you protect your wife? The answer is no doubt “yes” to all of these questions. Now, do you appreciate and understand your best friends commitment to his family? Of course you do. Do you want his family to do well? Do you want his wife and children to be protected? Of course you do. Would you even help his family in time of need to reach their goals? Of course you would. Ultimately though, you are solely responsible for your family and their welfare. This is nationalism on a very small scale.

In America we live in a culture and society that is anti tradition. Tradition is really too deep for us because it means commitment to something more than television shows and beer. It scares us to think that there are people willing to die for something. A man needs to know where he comes from. He needs to honor his ancestors. He needs to be working towards the man that his ancestors would be proud of. This is not an easy task.

The first step to becoming a nationalist is to explore your roots. Find out all that you can about your family and your ancestors; the good, the bad and the ugly. If you don’t know the traditions of your culture, learn them. You need to speak the language of your ancestors. You can get a basic idea and some good leads on the internet but it will eventually be necessary to connect with people. See if there is a cultural organization in your area. Churches tend to be places where traditions are kept pretty closely, both ethnic and religious.

Dig a little deeper into your heritage and one thing that you will be certain to find is traditional gender roles. In America many immigrant communities lose this after the first generation, but the seeds are still there in all cultures. If you wish to get married and settle down, this is a great place to meet a potential wife. Don’t rule out going overseas either. You will find as you dig deeper into your cultural heritage that matronly, feminine women are prized over all. If you are looking for a real, stable marriage you will need to look overseas nowadays. American women are not worth marrying. Find a woman who is also a nationalist. She will be the encouragement and support that you need as well as a suitable mother for your offspring.

Learn the warrior roots of  you heritage. Learn the tales of famous warriors, find paintings, statues or pictures of them online and get one for you office or study. I find that it helps me tremendously pre-workout to think on my ancestors a bit, particularly the warrior aspect; it invigorates me. I also listen to music from my culture while I lift weights.

Once you have dug deeper into this part of your identity hold fast to it. Make it a part of your very fabric. Although women are not the primary reason why we do anything, having a strong identity is like catnip to them. It’s just an added bonus for you.

Finally, after time and true integration into your own life you must pass this on to the next generation. Whether it be your own sons, your nephews, cousins it doesn’t matter. This is the essence of tradition, that it is past down form one generation to another. It is a sacred duty for all men.

If you have any experience with this yourself please comment to help your brothers out.

Until next time.